I met this girl at work and we seemed to like each other, it started off just smiling at each other.  I did like her but I never pursed it as she was in a relationship but she still flirted at me constantly.  After a while we would go out to the pub, not as a date and more often than not with others from work.

One night in the pub she told me that she really fancied me and wanted me, nothing happened at first because of her relationship, but she made it clear that she wanted me. 

Eventually we did have sex a few weeks later, and she got out of her relationship.  I told her that I really liked her too but at the time she said she needed time as she had just finished her relationship and needed to sort herself out.  I gave her time but we still met up and went out.  I got another job and left our workplace.  At this time I had fallen in love with her, and as we seemed to be seeing less of each other than I liked I decided to tell her how I felt.  She seemed shocked and said again that she needed some time.

I gave this to her and did not push the issue, I gave her plenty of time and even asked her if I should not see her, but she said no.  I eventually made it clear that I loved her lots, but at this time she has decided that she wants to do something with her life, have a fresh start and has decided to join the navy.

I asked her to give us a chance as she would be based in my hometown and I could still see her, but she said she loves me as a good friend and would still like me as a brilliant friend.

I have asked her whether she ever felt anything for me, and her attitude could of change so soon, as only last week we had passionately kissed and I fondled her on her birthday.  Yet she won’t answer any questions just says she wants to be friends and wants a new start.

I find it very tough to believe that she never felt anything for me as she flirted with me constantly, kissed me on the lips all the time, and I even had her mother introduce me to her father as her possible future husband at her birthday party, which makes me wonder what she has said to her mother.

I am torn up, should I still be friends even with how I feel, should I not, I just can’t stop thinking about her all the time.