Tantra

Sex might be something that the body participates in, it is the mind which controls it. Make sure that the scene is set so that you are both relaxed and not distracted. It can start with a romantic note left at the breakfast table, rose petals on return from home, make more of your love by making it more than just making love.

"There is a fundamental difference between directly experiencing sensuality and seeking it. Tantra is not hedonism, which is the pursuit of sensual pleasures. Tantra is the absorption in what is here now. It works on all levels of a person’s life, strengthening the body, calming the emotions, enhancing thought processes, and leading to an inner balance that can open the door to spiritual awareness. It includes a rotation of conscious sexual forces between two partners, mixing the male and female energies in an internal alchemy." Leora Lightwoman.